Stoicism is the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint. This kind of value system can work well and in parallel when you are doing Semen Retention. Whether this be Edging, Karezza or NEO(s) or any of the religious and spiritual tenets.
Edging otherwise known as Surfing, Peaking or Teasing can be described is the art of stopping yourself from reaching an orgasm when you are right on the cusp of it. This practice is best for orgasm control since you are right on the edge of an orgasm, metaphorically speaking — where you are just about to fall off the cliff into sexual climax. Edging in my opinion is something you would do after NoFap or when issues arise from Porn Creep. The regain of orgasmic control is essential if you want to move on to Karezza or NEO(s). The practice of Edging has become trendy in many sexual health communities and on many discussion boards. The act of stopping sexual stimulation before you come, waiting about 30 seconds, and then stimulating yourself again, while repeating until you’re ready to orgasm is of keen interest to many that have erectile dysfunction or for those that just want to know the limits of their bodies. It is indeed true that edging can make you more keenly aware of your own sexual responses in both a solo setting or in tune with a partner and brings a sense of mindfulness and sensuality into the bedroom.
Karezza is sexual intercourse that is typically slow and gentle. The word “Karezza” comes from the Italian word carezza which means to caress. The end goal of Karezza is not an orgasm but to reach a state with your partner where your minds, bodies and spirituality intertwine and you both reach a relaxed state of union. With Karezza, sexual partners are encouraged to become relaxed as much as possible and to remain relaxed when sexual energies surge. Karezza emphasizes spiritual love for another person through physical and mental contact rather than sexual passion. Practitioners of Karezza engage in sensual bonding activities such as smiling and skin-to-skin contact rather than typical foreplay activities. But, when practitioners reach sexual intercourse, it’s much slower and more relaxed than typical intercourse.
Indeed Karezza can be used on a platonic level for healing, such as with many traumas such as PTSD where a practitioner holds, hugs and/or cuddles with a partner. Feelings of euphoria and safety arrive and thus initiates the healing process of trauma victims. Many people that have gone through traumatic experiences feel safe and secure during the hugging or cuddling sessions of Karezza.
NEO is described as non-ejaculatory orgasm and is synonymous with NES which is non-ejaculatory sex. As with Edging and Karezza, sexual energy and desire are built up but in NEO/NES as with Karezza, the semen is not lost because there is no ejaculation. All the sexual energies and desires are transmuted into creative thinking, exercise, manifestation and the like. Unlike Karezza though, with NEO comes the ability to have orgasm. Thus, the biggest difference between Edging and NEO(s) is that you stop all stimulus on your penis but you actually do have an orgasm with no ejaculation.
How does this reconcile with Stoicism?Well, like stoicism, Semen retention is a practice and they both compliment each other. The practice of SR is indeed difficult to most who try it and it takes stoic behaviors of not complaining to endure the path of SR. With so many attempts and failures at SR, it is easy to give up, but having a stoic mindset will help you endure the path and become successful on your journey.