“Try not to become a [person] of success, but rather try to become a [person] of value.” – Albert Einstein

Our lives revolve around our successes but a lot of times we think about our failures more than we think about our successes. Yet, we talk more or even almost always about our successes and never about our failures. For many of us, our failures propel us forward through adversity while for others it makes us give up. Often we wonder if anyone cares about us and our successes, even though they nod their heads and smile as we tell them about how we almost gave up going to medical or law school then it happened or how we had a near death experience and almost didn’t make it but came out more prepared, braver and able to face the world on the other side.

Here are the 7 ways to become a person of substance:

Be Selfless:
Many of us are selfish. Why shouldn’t we be? We’re all we got in this world. However, a woman/man of substance understands there is something greater in the world for them to serve, whether this be humanity, their family, or a cause. The mere commitment to something greater adds depth to you as a person, and it communicates more about you to others than you can ever express over drinks and dinner.

Be Consistent:
Your word is your oath. Be someone people can count on. A reliable person is worth 10x their weight in gold. It’s the, “who do you call when you get stranded at night in the middle of nowhere” concept. Be someone who takes care of their responsibilities – no matter the time or place.

Be Humble:
Simply, let your life lived speak for itself. There’s not a time nor place where you should brag on yourself for something you did. If it’s great enough, someone will surely do it for you. Your identity should revolve around your ethics not your laurels.

Be Interesting:
Challenge yourself to learn new things. Encounter new cultures, situations, and activities. If you’ve always wanted to learn how to dance, enroll in a class. Think you want to skydive? Schedule it for this weekend. Those who pursue their curiosity create energy, like a gravitational pull. This energy pulls people towards them like a magnet.

Be Empathetic:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

At the core of humanity, it’s about connection. We are social creatures. So when you get the chance to make an impact on someone’s life, go deep with them. Ask questions. Encourage them. Give them your undivided attention. Actively listen.

Your understanding of the person sitting/standing across from you speaks volumes when they get around to telling someone else about you, whether indirectly or during an introduction.

Who knows? You may change the world one person at a time.

Be Candid:
Your integrity is more important than your likability. Once all is said and done, people will respect those who acted on what they believed in than believed what others wanted them to act on. Be your true self. If you don’t know who that is, go find yourself.

Through all the successes in my life, I’ve learned that people appreciate people; they tend to not appreciate things. If you want to be a woman/man of substance, go deep, not wide. Add value to lives and yourself.

Be your true self:
A shallow pond will feed you for a year, but a deep ocean will feed you for life. Be your true self – if your true self is negativity then replace that with positive energy, keep replacing that negativity with positivity until you have done a full 180 degree flip on life. You will start to notice things in and of the world, think differently, act differently and even talk and walk differently. You will look back and your former self and be surprised, disgusted or can’t even believe your were once that bundle of negativity.