1. NEVER GO TO THE MOVIES:
Aside from their opinion on the movie, what else do you know about your date after a trip to the movies? Nothing at all, right? The movie date is generally spent in silence sitting next to each other. You could have texted with your date for one day and found out just as much, if not more, than you did physically sitting next to them. You finally got the date you wanted, do you really want to spend those two hours of it in silence and looking forward and not at your date?
You’ve just walked into the movie with your date and you’re already down over $20 for two tickets. Then at the concession stand you have to get drinks, candy and popcorn. This can be pricey and a night out at the movies has cost me up to $60. It just makes more sense to go get a dinner where I can talk, get a good meal and interact with my date better.
IT LACKS ORIGINALITY:A movie date has been done for generations and is the go to experience when you can’t think of anything to do. You do it, your parents did it and your grandparents too. It’s not exactly creative or romantic.
IT CAN GET AWKWARD:
Sitting silently beside somebody you may have romantic feelings for is weird, and has been since sixth grade. The situation can get extremely awkward if you misstep such as putting your arm around them, sharing an armrest or offering a sip of your drink. This situation is made even weirder when a sex scene suddenly pops up on screen, which almost matches the embarrassment that comes with watching a sex scene with your parents.
THE MOVIE MIGHT SUCK:
If the movie sucks, and it can. Tryst me, I have been in this exact situation; then the date might suck by association. Which in turn could mean the date might suck by association. Going to a movie is a gamble, whether it’s a first date or not. Don’t come out of it all $60 poorer, and seeing some crappy horror movie and end up not getting a second date with someone you should have gotten to know but is still a complete stranger.
THE MOVIE MIGHT BE SOLD OUT:
I remember the days of not buying or even able to buy a movie ticket before showing up to the theater. I remember even going to the theater at 5 or 6pm and getting a ticket for the 9pm show since doing it online was not a thing then. Do not get to relish the experience of being in the nosebleeds because the movie is almost sold out and having to sit next to your date looking up at a movie or having to choose another movie to watch that both of you aren’t interested in and being stuck watching the movie in the front row staring vertically at the screen.
Basically, you sat in a dark room beside a person who could have been anybody because you never really saw or spoke to them. You didn’t eve get a chance to see what your date looked like or even if they matched their pictures. Don’t get cat fished and save the movies after you get to know him/her.
A driving movie date is the only exception here depending on your personality as well as the personality of your date. You can talk, get to know each other, look at each other, be intense and whatever else you cannot do in a packed movie theater with other people.
2. WEAR COLOGNE:
You want to smell good right?
3. SHOW RESPECT AND BE EARLY OR AT THE VERY LEAST ON TIME:
Arriving ten minutes early is better than one second late.
4. ASK QUESTIONS:
Shut up and listen. Nod, smile, be humble and ask questions about your date. This is not about you.
5. SIT NEXT TO EACH OTHER:
This is way better than opposite of each other with a table in between.
6. MAKE HER/HIM LAUGH:
Make them laugh by telling a joke about yourself and be quick with your replies. The funnier your reply the better. Wittiness by definition has to do with being quick and clever. Plus, timing is everything. When it comes to wit the time you spend processing your thoughts may be a missed opportunity. So, say whatever comes to your mind. We often self-monitor and are careful about the things that come out of our mouths and while there are certain contexts where it isn’t appropriate to let just any old thing roll from your tongue; use your judgment. Practice letting your guard down a little. Forget the self-monitoring and say whatever unpolished thing comes to your mind. Wit is about delivering the unexpected. But don’t be weird, don’t say things such as “I want to do xxx to you” and don’t say “That outfit is hot on you” if you haven’t build up a rapport with said female.
Remember to also end it on a high note. There’s nothing less sexy than someone who’s trying to be funny, but just doesn’t know when to end. You laugh the first time, the second, maybe even the third, but ALRIGHT, ENOUGH, it’s not funny anymore! Please don’t be that guy! Allow enough space in time between uses of earlier jokes. Be like a comedian. Hypothetically drop the mic and end the show while everyone’s still laughing. Sexy has less to do with what you wear and more to do with your energy. Be confident, witty and sexy.
7. LEAVE THE DESIRE FOR LATER:
If they are worth it, don’t kiss them on the first date. Most men rarely experience raw lust for a woman, they only think they want her on a cognitive level. The desire is logical, there is no real emotion behind it. The difference between a guy who gets repeatedly friend-zoned and a guy who can effortlessly turn women on is his own ability to experience desire. If you rarely feel turned on when you’re interacting with a woman you’re attracted to, you’re missing the point of seduction.
Most men learn that dating is about making a girl logically think you’re a good option for her first, so that she then experiences an emotional desire for you. The truth is the opposite: seduction is a process that starts with an emotion and only gets explained with logic afterwards. In dating, your primary focus should be on the emotions you’re making women experience, and the easiest place to start is with yourself.
8. LEAVE SOMETHING FOR LATER:
Don’t give up all your secrets on your first night out together and don’t always make yourself available.Have something to do such as work, a side hustle, going to the gym, or just hanging out with friends. Make it a priority to have priorities and goals to complete each day. So many guys will switch their whole schedule around to see and hang out with females; especially women they have just met. But this is a mistake, doing this will only signal to her that you are low value because you do not have goals, boundaries and principles. A guy who will ditch work and/or his family to hang out with a strange female isn’t somebody that is seen as high value.
Keep something that will surprise them in the future. and maintain some mystery. If you tell a date everything then there will be nothing else to talk about.
9. DON’T STARE AT OTHER WOMEN:
Not only is this rude but it will just kill the date. Maybe that is the reason why she said she is just going to the washroom, never came back and stopped answering your calls and texts.
10. PAY THE BILL:
This should be simple enough. If you are wary about your financial means then don’t date. I even wrote about this here.